Marriage in the midst of...


Help for your Marriage in the Midst...

of conflicts.


Some marriage tensions

aren’t going to get solved quickly.

Yet...

marriages need a relief valve

to reduce the stress of an on-going problem.

I suggest that couples declare a vacation day!

And I will show you HOW!!!


I will show you HOW to enter an

Oasis of

Peace and Playfulness.


This page will help you

take a much-needed vacation

from conflict.



Couples NEED fun!


Take a Fun Vacation

in the midst 


FUN!     



Every marriage has times of tension.


It could be

financial tension, in-law tension,

rebellious teenager tension,

toddler tension,

unemployment tension,

health crisis tension,

trying to have a baby tension,

and on and on.


Tension


The hardest tension is usually when

one spouse is

wounded by something

the other spouse

said or did over and over.


Repetitive problems can be the most frustrating.




All kinds of tension and strife

have the potential

to add up to

hindrances to a happy marriage.


Some tensions aren’t going

to get solved quickly.

Yet, marriages need a relief valve

to reduce the stress of an on-going problem.



Take the road to fun and laughter.


Choosing to add

 some fun and laughter 

into a marriage

can help us get perspective

and a

second wind.


Declare a Vacation Day


This works best when

husband and wife agree -

but it can be helpful

even if only one spouse participates.


So...

Let's declare a vacation day!



Decide to give

an award-winning performance….

and pretend

you are

AS wildly in love AS you have ever been

AND

that problems are far, far away.


Think about actors in a romantic movie.

They come to work and pretend

they are wildly in love with someone

they barely know

and may not even like –

while dealing with their own problems

at home.


And remember back

– or if you are young... investigate –

the TV show

“Ozzie and Harriet.”




Ozzie and Harriot WERE actually married.


So they had to show the TV camera

a happy couple

even when they had off-camera conflict.


YOU

CAN

let down your guard

and show your spouse

the kind of love

that is refreshing and marriage building.



DECIDE to…..ENJOY each other.


Agree to lay all the problems down

until tomorrow.

Enter an oasis of peace and playfulness.



Be as flirty and fun

as you have ever been.



Marriages grow stronger

with fun and happy laughter

shared with your spouse.



It is good to 

Giggle

together

and be

JOYFUL


Happy Laughter

Loving Laughter

not

Sarcastic Laughter


Sarcasm breaks  down  a marriage

but happy, l-o-v-i-n-g laughter

shared together

builds a marriage.



On our vacation day,

the rule is -

No talking about conflict.


Your assignment if you are a woman -

Make your husband feel like a hero.

Only say uplifting things to your husband.

Have fun with your husband.


Your assignment if you are a man -

Make your wife feel beautiful 

and tell her that she is beautiful.

Only say uplifting things to your wife.

Have fun with your wife.



If someone gave you

a million dollars to do this....

you COULD do this....

so just do it!

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Do something together

that you did

during a happy place in your relationship.


Look at your spouse through dating eyes.



Remember back to happy dating times.


Remember when

a phone call

or text

from your honey

would make your heart flutter.


God made 6 days for work and one for rest.

We often forget that principle.

A marriage cannot take a

24 / 7

focus on problems.

When that happens,

strife and anger

come and

take up residence.



BEWARE

Often during difficult times,

we get thoughts in our head

that

our spouse doesn’t love us anymore  

or that

our spouse doesn’t like us anymore –

or that

our spouse isn't attracted to us anymore –

and on and on…….

and those thoughts grab us

and do

damage to our marriage.


BUT

The Bible says to

take every thought

captive

and bring it into the obedience of Christ.

2 Corinthians 10:5

~

So,

Don't allow negative thoughts to

run wild

in your mind.

Shut them down and

intentionally

think and speak

words that

increase marital happiness.

-

Think the best about your spouse.



Consider recreating a

GREAT DATE

that you two had.

BUT

Don't get your expectations too high

during this vacation.

Don't expect everything to go

perfectly.



BEWARE

of

Expectations

Expectations High = Satisfaction Low

Expectation Low = Satisfaction High



When expectations are HIGH.

we are in danger of

falling into

unhappy thoughts AND heated arguments.


Soooo,

Keep your expectations - LOW.



Strengthening Prayers


Lord of Love,

You want our marriage to be strong and healthy.

Help me to let go of troubles

and have fun today. 


I will remind myself

of my favorite things about my spouse.

I will allow Fun and Playfulness

to lead me toward a great day.


Thank you for helping me

to love my spouse today

in a marriage - building way.


In Jesus' name I pray,

Amen

Copyright © 2020 Beth McLendon of Inspirational-Prayers.com


Lord of Love,

Teach me...

 - Teach us - 

How to Build a 

Strong, Happy Marriage.

With love I pray,

Amen


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Proverbs 17:9

Love prospers when a fault is forgiven,

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