Inspiration for Purity
This page isn't only for virgins - but also for
those who want to put purity back into their life.
This page has lots of men and women
who will encourage you
to stay pure while dating.
Some on this page are virgins or were virgins when they married and some later
added purity to their dating.
We have all types of videos.
Please share this page
with adults and especially with teens
And here are prayers on this topic
that you can pray for those you love: Prayer
By the way,
I am only promoting the videos below.
I do not know these people.
I may disagree with
other videos they have.
If you don't like a video - skip to the
John Tesh and Connie Sellecca
Famous and.... Pure
during their dating.
They were not virgins but decided to be pure when they started dating each other.
MUST - SEE
The entertaining video below
will give you
you should wait for sex until marriage!
The Punch line is 9 minutes 28 seconds through 14 minutes.
This video especially helps
females to understand men and how to be blessed
males the information
to a happy marriage for themselves
and for mentoring their children.
Some things to consider
from a woman's perspective ...
Shouldn't you find out before marriage if you are sexually compatible?
I (Beth McLendon) edited a book for a marriage counselor several years ago.
He revealed that many people he counsels had
good sex - even great sex
before they were married
but not after (even right after)
they were married.
(Why? Various reasons. I'll list some of those reasons at the bottom of the page. )
Sex before marriage
does not always
sex after marriage.
it is not uncommon for a man
to have sex "once" with a woman and his desire
for her will just disappear.
He can't even help it.
Not doing things God's way can have
So don't listen to the lie that
you have to "check out" sex before marriage.
30 Great reasons
to choose purity!
Nate and Sutton
Our wedding night as virgins.
Was it worth it?
Waiting on Sex is
Facts you don't know about
sex before marriage.
The next four videos
are from a man who had
lots of sex outside of marriage
and realized that
he needed to stop.
First video -
10 Reasons not to have sex.
Second video -
"Women, wake up and choose purity!"
Third video -
How I began to wake up.
Fourth video -
The Pros and Cons of Purity
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The First Video
why this man doesn't have sex before marriage.
Disclaimer - As to his last point - I strongly urge people not to get emotionally close to a person of the opposite sex that you are not dating and considering that person a good marriage partner.
And if you are dating someone - break it off if you come to believe that person would not make a good spouse and parent for your children. (Don't just continue the relationship to keep from being lonely.)
Why? Because you cannot CHOOSE who you fall in love with. Becoming emotionally close can lead to falling in love even if you don't want to.
I have seen friends spend time together and all of a sudden, one of them finds emotions starting to snowball. It ends up one of them is in love and ends up pinning away for years - longing for a person who isn't interested in them.
AND I have seen several situations where....... two people became close friends and then ended up being married (but only one is really in love and thinks the other would make a great spouse). The one who only got married because of loneliness caused himself to be miserable and caused misery for his spouse.
I have seen this played out over and over. Be wise.
The Second Video
For virgins AND ESPECIALLY for women
who are having sex
and are not legally married.
How a man
Woke up to the need for Purity
The Pros and Cons of Purity
Sex blinds you to flaws in a person
Sex makes you Stupid!
God designed it that way to bless you in marriage...
The following 2 couples are married.
They remained pure during their dating.
Listening to them is
inspiring and encouraging.
Paul and Morgan are the two on the right.
But the intro is confusing about who is who.
Shouldn't we have sex before marriage
to see if we are sexually compatible?
Why is sexual sin
different from other sins?
Everybody is doing it - Right?
Below you see Ben Shapiro answering questions and just happens to mention that he was a virgin when he got married.
Everybody is NOT doing it.
A quick explanation about the video below...
Paul and Morgan were pure
during their dating.
Below they are acting in a
about being single.
They are trying to help inspire others
to make good decisions.
A short skit
Below is an Inspirational Movie about
in an impure World
This is a sexy movie about waiting until marriage.
It involves two non-virgins.
It is a great movie for men and women!
The above movie shows the way
that a man
travels the road to dating in a pure way.
The movie is real about the challenges
AND about the rewards!
The ending is AWESOME!
The movie motivates virgins and non-virgins
to be PURE!
Purity Honors God!
More great movies....
Here are two chic flics that inspire purity -
Undercover Bridesmaid and Princess Cut
Before we continue with more videos -
Consider this Purity Prayer
Dear Heavenly Father,
I desire to be pure.
I want to make right choices.
Help me to create good boundaries.
Remind me to stay alert and dedicated.
I pray these things in Jesus' name.
Being Pure during Dating.
Intimacy after waiting.
(only one was a virgin during dating)
I am not recommending the book. I haven't seen it.
Sex before marriage promotes a selfish kind of love and
waiting till marriage promotes a unselfish kind of love.
Boundaries in Dating
This is from the couple in the video above
We also share how the goal of a courtship isn't just to put boundaries in, and then focus on completing them.
Boundaries are prayerfully put in place because we know that our flesh is weak, and we truly desire to honor God in our relationships.
The goal of a courtship is to continue to pursue godliness, as we grow alongside one another, preparing for marriage.
The next video helps us with
This couple wants to help you:
Hold onto your Purity.
Putting God first
"Thy word have I hid in my heart, that I might not sin against thee."
Three Tips to help you stay PURE!
Paul and Morgan
continue to discuss purity.
What about kissing?
And yes, they are a little silly.
Love is Patient.
The following video
has some worthwhile thoughts - especially at the end.
Be careful about too much texting and too "deeply personal" texting.
Your Wedding Night
Tips for your first night together -
Pick the location - clean, quiet, private, and beautiful.
Below, are more great tips for Your Wedding Night
The POWER of a
I was reading comments under a Youtube video about purity.
Here is one comment from a man:
Man here. I hate that phrase:
"you gotta take the car for a test drive."
Yeah, I want to be compared to a hunk of metal.
If you need sex to decide
if I'm worthy of you,
then you don't really value me after all.
One woman said:
Sexclusivity is a way for us ladies to keep our power.
My self worth, self esteem and integrity are more important than a stranger's feelings.
And if he puts pressure or bullies or tries to
intimidate me ... if he refuses to accept that
no means no and
I need him to be patient and wait "....
Then it's goodbye!!!!
In several comments, some people were
saying that they were living with
their boyfriend / girl friend but not having sex.
I say - even IF (big If) you are doing that, you are
going against the Bible.
You are also stirring up temptation.
"Abstain from even the appearance of evil."
1 Thessalonians 5:21
"Winking at sin leads to sorrow.
Bold reproof leads to peace."
Proverbs 13:13 TLB
God says "Don't do it."
AND .....Your neighbors will see you living together, and they will naturally assume things.
AND we can easily see how easily they could fall into temptation......SO....Don't do it!
Godly men talking about
Waiting for Sex till Marriage
Some reasons given by counselors
Sex before marriage
Sex after marriage are not always related.
Below is a sample of
why sex before marriage with someone
can be great
and sex after marriage to be not so great.
1) Some people (especially men) get hooked on the naughtiness of sex before marriage with their girl friend and find they can't get interested in sex with the same girl after marriage.
2) Some people (especially men) feel no guilt at having sex before marriage but after marriage they feel they took advantage of their wife by having sex before marriage and now they feel so guilty that they avoid sex with their wife.
3) MANY people (especially women) feel sad, angry, guilty, etc. on their wedding night because they had sex before marriage. So their first sex as man and wife is full of negative emotions.
4) Some people become jealous prone during their marriage because they know how easily their spouse gave in to sexual activity with them.
Note: If you have sex before marriage, the only way to begin to cleanse your conscience and renew your mind - is to repent to God and make a new commitment to sexual purity.
Consider our other pages:
Great help with - Getting free of Porn
Let us walk properly as in the daytime,
not in orgies and drunkenness,
not in sexual immorality and sensuality,
not in quarreling and jealousy.
One of the men
in one of the above videos said:
"It is hard to rebuke the sins that we sleep with."
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