Prayer for a wife in crisis

Prayer for

a Wife to pray

in Crisis

Prayer

for Facing a Crisis

as a

married couple

Including Helpful Tips

A page for a

Wife

Also see our page on Dealing with Crisis

Husbands and Wives

will at some point

find themselves

facing a crisis as a couple

that is not rooted in their marriage

but in other life circumstances. 

Many times

a

marriage

is being strained

by a crisis

such as

Health issues,

death of a family member,

work pressures,

job loss,

extended family issues

unexpected bills, etc.

These can cause a crisis in the life of a married couple.

This

first

Prayer

was posted on 

our original 

crisis prayer page.

Almighty God,

You see this family crisis.

You understand everything about it.

I am coming to you seeking your help.

Give us new ways of looking at this situation.

Give us solutions we have not thought of.

Give us insights into the changes that need to take place.

Show us how to get from where we are to where we need to be.

Help us to see this crisis from the view of a couple working together  -  not from the view of opposing people fighting each other.

Lord, you are an amazing God, and we need your amazing help.

I will draw closer to you, Lord, during this crisis.

I will not let this situation keep me from staying close to you.

Give me wisdom and discernment.

Help me to make right choices.

In Jesus' name I pray,

Amen

Copyright © 2015 Beth McLendon of Inspirational - Prayers.com

It is usually true

that it is

the

WIFE

who is

first

aware

of the strain in a marriage.

And it is the wife who is usually

the one

who does

the most

prayer and research

on how to make things better.

And it is the wife who is usually

the one

who tries the hardest

to set the tone of peace and intimacy

in the home.

I point this out

- not to get you angry about that -

but to

get you to see your important role in your marriage,

and to

remind you

of how vital it is

to your marriage

that you be in a

submissive role to Father God. 

You are the heart of the home.

You have great

POWER

to make changes

if

you will seek to do it God's way. 

This page

will give you

lots of practical ways

to help your marriage.

Let us

begin

with two prayers.

Father God,

I ask that you help me to live my life

in selfless service

to you.

I ask for your strengthening

POWER

to fill me and make me

into a

Mighty Woman of God. 

Amen

The  next  prayer

is designed

to help a couple

overcome

a crisis

and reinforce intimacy.

Prayer

written

for a Wife to pray.

Dear God,

You are Merciful and Mighty.

You have all Wisdom and Knowledge.

I come before you

needing

your intervention in our circumstances and in our marriage. 

I lift up my husband in prayer.

My husband is hurting so badly.

We are both hurting so badly.

God, I ask that you pour help into my husband's mind and emotions.

I ask that you help him to hear your voice. And I ask you to help him to yield to your wisdom and guidance - now and throughout this crisis.

I ask that you help him

to

receive the love that I have for him

and

feel comforted by my love.

I ask that you help us to be steady in you in these circumstances.

Help us to receive from you.

Help us to stand strong in you.

Renew our minds and give us thoughts that will keep us from meltdown.

Draw us away from opportunities to make matters worse.

Help us to allow each other

to be experiencing

stress or worry or fear or other unsettling emotions -

without pushing each other away. 

Whisper to us

to be gracious to each other

and to easily forgive.

Tenderize

my heart toward my husband.

Strengthen me against self - centeredness.

Help me to not take things personally

but instead

focus on my husband's pain.

Remind me

that you tenderly watch and take note of

every kindness and every selfless act

that

I give to my marriage. 

Remind me

to cooperate with you

in bringing blessings to my marriage. 

Remind us to avoid

nit - picking

specific words or tone of voice

or even an occasional

mini-meltdown.

Remind us of the blessings of pulling together

instead of

letting our pain push us apart. 

Remind me

to thank my husband for everything I can think of

in order to

strengthen our unity.

Strengthen us against worry, irritation, and other unprofitable emotions. 

Help us to wait more peacefully on your help.

Thank you for all you are doing for us. 

I will put my trust in you.

I pray in the Life - Transforming name of Jesus,

Amen

Copyright © 2026 Beth McLendon of Inspirational-Prayers.com

NOTE:

Further down

you will find

HELP

for those

who are continually being emotionally hurt.

MORE   Tips

Ladies,

I have been a wife for many years.

It took me a long time to figure some things out.

Allow me (on this page) to give you shortcuts

to a happier marriage

and a stronger relationship with God.

First

I begin with some quick tips -

Seek wisdom - diligently!
Seek to
contain and eliminate self-pity and self-centeredness. 

Ask God to
tenderize your heart for how your husband feels.
Try to see
things from his point of view.

Remind yourself that -
It is foolish and destructive
to be upset
when your husband does not read your mind.

Note that - you get more marital happiness with sugar than vinegar.

If you are closer to God

than he is -

do not expect him to act closer to God than you act.

Lots

More tips below -

Including

HOW to talk to your husband about difficult topics.

-

All my tips 

are 

suggestions.

My tips

may not fit your marriage situation. 

Continual Meanness

In this section,

I present help for those who are

being continually

emotinally hurt in your marriage.

If your husband is

going overboard

with being mean,

prayerfully consider these suggestions.

Consider

sharing with your husband

the words in the following scenario

or similar words.

Check with God

to make sure these suggestions would help your marriage. 

Before sharing with your husband -

remind yourself

of the following tips.

Be watchful that you keep a loving

tone of voice.

Make your words

as soft and gentle as they can be.

Speak slowly to help him process what you are saying.

Sitting together is best. Be sure not to stand over him as he sits.
Be on the same level. 

Consider writing out what you are going to say and sticking to it.

If
you add something spontaneous,
you
will probably add
finger-pointing accusations or unhelpful emotions. 

Pray and ask God if it will be helpful to give him the paper

when you are finished

so he can review it.

Important Note:

Pick a time

that you think

is most probably the best time for success.

Soak your words and attitudes in prayer.

And begin with -

sweetheart, or honey, or whatever romantic name you call him.

In the words to a husband

written below

instead of saying "situation" you may want to say - 

This health issue or this problem with your brother, or
this crisis at work, etc.

Honey,

I love you.

I realize that this situation is very difficult for you.

I want you to easily see my love and support during this time.

I want us to be strong and united. 

I need your help.

Without your help,

I will struggle and probably make things worse.

I struggle to be a great wife for you

when I feel unloved.

I feel unloved when you speak in a certain tone

and say

rough things to me. 

I feel rejected.

When I feel rejected, I struggle to be the best wife I can be.

I regret it when I
allow
my emotions to push me
into
self - centeredness and sometimes anger.

Please forgive me for those things.

I am working on myself.

I sure could use your help.

Fighting unwanted emotions
makes it harder
for me
to be
the
supportive wife I want to be.

You are an Amazing man and I love you dearly. 

I want to be an Amazing wife for you.  

Would you give me a hug, and would you help me in this area? "

-

Even if

he does not react like you want him to,

keep calm

and

do not have a meltdown.

DO NOT participate in an argument!

LEAVE the room!

If

he reacts negatively,

nicely say,

"Right now, the best thing

I can do

is calm things down by 

 getting busy in the other room."

Then nicely leave the room

and go pray for him.

A little further down

I will post a prayer for you to consider praying

right after you talk to your husband.

First - I want to emphasize -

A calm reaction

will get you more success

than blowing up with anger and hurt. 

Right NOW -

let God

work on him as he thinks about your words.

If you blow up,

your

husband

will focus

on your anger

and not

on the logic and rightness of your words.

Remind Yourself -

The person who is closest to God

will be the person

God will most often use

to be the most mature in a situation.

Show your maturity - be calm and kind.

Sample Prayer

Father God,

My husband has just heard some words

that were hard for him to hear.

Hearing these things

has made him feel bad about himself.

He may even feel

embarrassment or shame.

He probably feels like a failure

and

he is probably overwhelmed

with discouragement,

tiredness,

and - 

confusion on how to handle things with me.

I will intentionally

lay down my self-centeredness and pick up maturity.

I pray that you will whisper wise thoughts to him.

I pray that you will lead him to a path

where he can

live out

being the great husband that you are calling him to be. 

He needs to receive 

your help.

He needs me to be loving.

Remind him of my love and of your love.

Remind me

to focus on the vital role I play in all of this.

Remind me to be strong and to not make this situation

all about my feelings

but help me

to focus on my husband's feeling of failure and embarrassment

and

to focus on how I can be his best friend. 

Help me to respond

to any kind gesture by him

with

warmth and cheerfulness.

I pray in the strong name of my Mentor and Savior

Jesus Christ,

Amen 

Below is a Picture of -

Woman

wearing the Full Armor of God

and praying.

The Full Armor is found in

Ephesians chapter 6

verses 10 - 18.

See our

Full Armor Prayer for Wives  -  Here

If your marriage is struggling,

and even if it isn't

watch some insightful movies

such as

Fireproof. 

Do NOT watch this WITH your husband.

This movie

gives a step - by  - step guide

to healing a

hurting marriage.

There is even a book that comes with it that you can buy.

 Also check out the Kevin Sorbo movie - "What if " - but watch it alone - not with your husband. Notice how the wife handles a cold husband.

Note 

During appropriate times,

genuinely thank your husband

when he is kind during periods of stress for him.

Be his cheerleader.

Be the enthusiastic  >  President of His Fan Club.

Even thank him

for times he is nice without feeling stressed!

Be a little overboard in genuine compliments -
if
you can see that
he is being nourished by your words.

See our

Amazing

DISC personality styles

insights & tips

further down the page. 

Examples of

HOW to start giving more compliments

" Honey, 

the other day when you were so awesome and so gentle to me,

I left the room thinking

about

all the things I love about you

and

how wonderful you made me feel.

I should have said something then.

God has been convicting me

that

I need to share with you

the

awesome compliments I give you in my thoughts. "

Pro - Tip

Use the phrase

"Would you" or "Will you"

instead of

"Can you."

"Can you" is more irritating to men.

I understood

that

when someone pointed out -

How would you like

for your husband

to ask, 

"Can you marry me?"

This next tip

might be

a

helpful tip

for marriages

that are already strong.

A tip that I learned along the way

IS...

Nicely ask your husband

to confirm or deny thoughts in your head

that are upsetting you.

First Example

I'll use an example that many women experience - 
which is .....
insecurity
about their husband's love.

"Honey, I keep having thoughts that you do not love me and that

you do not care about me.

I try to stop them by saying they are lies

but it would help me and strengthen me

if you re-assure me. 

Do you

still love me and care about me?"

If he reacts nicely -

Celebrate his words of love

no matter if they are not perfectly said.

If his reaction upsets you -

Even if

he does not react like you want him to,

keep your cool

and

do not have a meltdown.

Consider saying something like the following 2 suggestions.

1.

If he ignores you -

nicely say,

"The best thing I can do is give you some time to

think about what I just said. 

I'll go into the kitchen

and

make something

yummy that you like. "

2.

If he gets angry with you - 

nicely say

something like - 

"Things are getting heated. I do not want to stir up anger.

I will give you some space."

And then nicely leave the room. 

God can use your loving calmness to begin to

penetrate his hard heart.

TAKE NOTE:

A calm reaction

will get you more success

than blowing up with anger and hurt. 

NOW

that you have spoken to him -

let God

work on him

as he thinks about your words.

If you blow up,

your husband

will focus

on your anger

and not

on the logic and rightness of your words.

I have another example that includes

blaming your negative thoughts on the devil.

That helped

me and my husband.

That example is at the bottom of the page.

Next Example

for your prayerful consideration

"Honey, I keep thinking that you are mad at me about something.

Those thoughts are stirring upset emotions in me.

Are you mad?"

(Accept his words no matter if they are not perfectly said.)

  If he IS mad - 

Consider 

saying,

"I definitely want to be supportive.

We can work anything out. 

Are you mad at something concerning me or something else? "

Do not try to make him tell you what it is - if it is something else. 

Instead, tell him,

"I am ok if you do not want to tell me more.

I want to give you space.

If you do not mind,

I would like an opportunity later

to listen to you and speak words of support to you."

  If he IS mad at you, 

start praying that you do not over-react.

Try to listen calmly.

If you get mad at what he said - 

then say to him,

"I am glad that you shared with me.

I do not want you mad at me.

I need time to think about what you said."   

If you are NOT mad at what he said -

Consider saying something like,

"Oh Honey, I am sorry that I such and such.

I was not thinking clearly.

I do not want to damage our relationship.

Please forgive me.

I love you.

Thank you for sharing."

Be an AMAZING spouse

even before

you have an AMAZING spouse.

Helpful Prayer

God,

Show me the right words

and actions

to bring

calmness and godly wisdom

into this situation.

Amen

What about

crying ?

The video below

has 

Great ideas 

for when you find yourself crying

during a difficult discussion. 

Heroic Husbands 

"My Hero" 

Take note:

Husbands want to a hero to their wife.

Do things to make that happen. 

Notice

heroic things your husband does. 

Do not make being a hero - hard or impossible.

Heroic things

are

being kind in a difficult situation

or

holding the door for you

or 

coming to your rescue in any way in any situation.

Build him up. 

Do not make "pleasing you" a difficult task. 

And remember:

It is not difficult or impressive

to

tear down your husband.

It shows

more about

who you are than who he is. 

Knowing Personality Styles - HELPS

Personality Styles

The DISC Personality Styles.

I am an expert in DISC.

I encourage you to visit my page

that explains DISC.

Click here

Next is a quick overview....

There are 4 main personality styles.

D

I

S

C.

NOTE:

We are a blend of traits from the four personality styles.

The top 2 styles
that have most of your traits
are both
very influencial in your words and actions.

Take note
of
both
your husband's top style
and
his
second highest style as well.

"D" people are

outgoing and task - oriented.

The "D" styles need compliments the least

of any style.

And they are usually not good at giving compliments.

They are also the people

who naturally

have the hardest heart.

They are usually hard on others and easy on themselves.

They need to allow God to soften their heart.

They need to value gentleness.

 PRAY for that.

Gentleness is one of the Fruit of the Spirit

found in Galatians 5.

Here is a great Bible verse from

King David -

who was a great warrior and leader.

In speaking to God

he says - 

" Your gentleness has made me great. "

Psalm 18:35 b

Even though your husband is probably

much less gentle

than you,

wisdom says to

work on YOUR gentleness

in all areas of your life,

while asking God to work on your husband's

gentleness.

And note:

Dealing with a hard husband

can bring out or increase

the hardness in the heart of a wife.

Work with God against that tendency.

If you have a "D" husband,

you really need to learn DISC

for increasing your marital happiness.

My Praying for your Child book
is still available on Amazon.
And it not only helps you understand your child -
it helps you
understand all people. 

If

your husband begins to

understand

that his actions and words are producing

negative results,

he may decide to soften.

"Ds" focus on results.

It is hard for "Ds" to accept

that most people think differently about things

from the way

they do.

Unless you are a "D",

your husband's mind will work  VERY  differently

from your mind.

> > > > ENCOURAGEMENT < < < <

Here is some Encouragement:

Paul - who wrote most of the New Testament -
appears to be a "D".

He was harsh, cold, and demanding. He was killing Christians! Yet,
in God's guiding hands,
he was the one who wrote the Love Chapter -

1 Corinthians chapter 13. 

Reading that chapter

daily

in multiple translations

can improve your marriage.

I love the scene

in the Kevin Sorbo movie

"What if"

where

the wife and husband

read that chapter together.

It

heals their marriage.

"I" people are

outgoing and people - oriented.

"I" men are VERY feeling oriented.

The "I" style needs compliments and encouragement

MORE

than the other styles.

If you are married to an "I"

it is vital

that you learn to be an encourager

if

you want an awesome marriage. 

They thrive in a marriage where their spouse learns to use

compliments as motivation - and in a marriage where

their spouse

lovingly and gently and perhaps flirtacously

remind them of things.

THEY are usually VERY forgetful.

Do not disrespect them for their weakness.

For example,

you can say in a flirty way,

"Handsome love of my life,

do not forget to stop by the grocery store

on the way home.

Hey, would you like for me

to make a sexy call to you on your way home

and during my flirting - I remind you?" 

Learn to flirt with your husband.

Consider texting him compliments.

Consider leaving a romantic note in his car or coat pocket.

Check out our romance pages - Here

Make things fun with your "I" husband.

Not only will it bless him

but it will propel you

into fun and bless you!

"S" people are

reserved and people - oriented.

The "S" style needs support.

They need calmness and gentleness. 

They desperately want peace and lack of conflict in their life.

They usually shut down during stress or conflict.

They are hungry for kindness from you.

They usually respond well to being told,

"I appreciate you."

They sometimes become

passive aggressive

when under stress.

They usually love the words "team" "harmony" "kindness" "help" "appreciation," and "peace."

Tell them you want to be a team where he feels your support.

Tell him that you appreciate him.

The "S" style often get embarrassed easily.

So,

unless you also see a lot of "I" style in him,

give him

compliments in private - not in front of people.

The " S " section continues below.

"S" style likes to Follow

An "S" husband

usually likes to follow -

not lead.

That desire to follow can result in

him

allowing you

to mow over him

if that is your desire.

He hates conflict and most likely will

quietly allow you

to disrespect him. 

Yet -

being disrespected will probably result

in him

feeling more and more negative about his marriage.

He may even get passive aggressive.

Being disrespectful is sinful and it damages your marriage.

God tells us to respect our husband.

Let me be clear.

A woman

who likes to lead

married to an "S" man

who likes to follow

will

 naturally

and

harmoniously

create

a marriage

where

she is making a majority of the decisions.

That is fine.

But it must be with his blessing

in order

to have a godly marriage.

He must KNOW that he CAN overrule you

if he wants to -   

AND -

that you will react to being overruled

with

gentleness, respect, and submission.

( And given the freedom - he will overrule you sometimes. )

Note:

Never

put your husband down

in front of other people - including

your children.

That is sinful.

Repent and change.

When your "S" husband hurts you,

if

you need to say something,

here is an example.

"Sweetheart, I love you.

And I love your big, tender heart toward me.

I know that

you do not want to hurt me.

I know you

try hard not to hurt me.

The other day when you forgot such and such
( or you said or did such and such) - 
it
made me feel
that you are not in love with me anymore.

It would help me and bless me 
if you would give me a hug
and
tell me that you love me."

 " C " people are

reserved and task - oriented.

"C" style people
usually focus on accuracy and react badly to dishonesty. 

They deal in facts and logic.

They are not as feeling-oriented as the "S" and "I" styles.

Many "C" husbands

have a hard time relating to feelings.

"C" husbands

are usually more moved by logic than emotion.

It is not unusual

for "C" style people to react with suspicion.

"Cs" might react with suspicion

when they see a change in you.

For example

If you decide to start giving compliments,

they may react with suspicion.

Yet

most "C" men need some compliments.

To help them understand a recent change,

tell them

something like,

"God has convicted me
that
I have not been complimenting you.
You are wonderful,
and
I notice
you being
wonderful
all the time.
I want to change - and more often tell you
how wonderful you are." 

Your best approach with "Cs" is logic.

When you need to address a marital issue,

sit down and think through your thoughts and feelings

before

presenting them logically to your "C" husband.

If your husband is too cold or harsh,

logically explain

how

coldness

affects

you

and that it

hinders your ability to be the best wife you can be. 

"Honey, I know it would be great if my emotions did not

affect me as much as they do.

But myself and many woman

are wired so that our emotions have a big impact on us.

Uplifting emotions motivate me to be a great wife.

Sad and hurt emotions tempt me to get hurt or angry.

I need your help.

Helping me in this area,

will strengthen me so I can be an Amazing wife for you. "

Note:

Do not make "pleasing you" hard. 

Tell him that you are eager to make a great team together

that produces an excellent marriage.

"Cs" usually like the words

"excellent" "perfect" and "flawless."

Example:

"The other day when you said such and such -

that was a perfect way

to support me and make me feel loved."

"Cs" like being

shown respect

for tasks and topics that

they excel in. 

Movie to Encourage Women

Great Movie

called - 

What if?

with Kevin Sorbo

Do not watch this   with   your husband.

This is  encouragement and insights  for you.

Women who struggle with a 

cold man

will be encouraged by this movie.

-

Pray before starting new strategies 

to make your marriage better.

Give your husband

time to see the new you.

Pray and give God time to work.

Some of you will not see a difference in days or weeks - 

but - give it time.

Most men will slowly move toward positive change.

If

your husband is truly hard and does not change....

Try getting strength

from my page for women

who feel

tolerated instead of celebrated,

forgotten instead of adored. 

Here

God can strengthen

you

while you continue to bless your husband.

God can teach

a

woman of God

how to be

a selfless servant who is joyful.

No matter

how young or old she is!

Bottom of the Page

Note -

I call the devil and demons > the enemy of my soul.

Here is an example

of blaming negative thoughts on the devil.

"Honey, I keep thinking that you are angry with me. 

I think the enemy of my soul

is telling me lies - such as - you are upset with me.

I think he is trying to get me to be upset. 

Is that right?

Almost always, my husband says,

"No, I am not angry at all."

And

he gives me a hug. 

He also uses this technique with me

when he thinks

unsettling thoughts concerning me.

Final Prayer

God,

I ask you to bless all my visitors.

Amen

This page was posted in August 2026.