Best Discipline Tips

I encourage you to

Discipline your child

according to

his or her

personality

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This page reveals

a way of

disciplining your child

by keeping in mind

how your specific child

is

best

motivated and inspired

to obey you.

I am Beth.

I am an expert in DISC personality styles.

DISC has greatly blessed my life.

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There are 4 main DISC personality styles.

D - I - S - C

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All four styles

contain a list of personality traits.

Every person

has some traits from each style.

Each of us is born

with a certain predominant personality style.

For example,

if a child

has more “D” traits

than “I”, “S”, or “C” traits,

we say that

he or she

has a “D” personality style.

Knowing a child’s predominant (or highest) style

helps

a parent or teacher

to

have helpful clues

about

discipline techniques

that

will work best with that child.

This page is a

Kid-sized View of DISC

A Quick look at Personality Styles

Here is a quick overview

of each style.

As you look at the chart above

and as you

read through the information below

find

which list of traits

most often describes

your child.

Then

scroll down to get discipline tips for your child.

I remind you

that we have

some traits from every style.

" D " style people

are

Outgoing and Task - Oriented.

Some of their traits are listed below.

They are usually seen as

Determined,

Powerful, Confident, Bold, Self - Starters,

Results - oriented, Determined, Dominant, Leaders,

Impatient, Forceful, Abrasive, and Risk - takers.

They want to control.

They want to be in charge.

They are usually born wanting to tell others what to do.

If that sounds like your child,

scroll down

for the " D " section.

" I " style people 

are

Outgoing and People - Oriented.

Some of their traits are listed below.

They are usually seen as

Inspiring, Social, Fun, Spontaneous, Impulsive, Energetic,

Expressive,

Restless, Easily Distracted, Imaginative,

Difficulties with completing tasks, and

Seeks to be the center of attention.

If that sounds like your child,

scroll down

for the " I " section.

" S " style people 

are 

Reserved and People - Oriented.

Some of their traits are listed below.

They are usually seen as

steady, kind, gentle, shy, softhearted, compassionate,

helpful, calm, supportive,

slow - paced,

loyal, cooperative, indecisive, and easygoing.

If that sounds like your child,

scroll down

for the " S " section.

The " C " style people

are

Reserved and Task - Oriented.

Some of their traits are listed below.

They are usually seen as

careful,

cautious, consistent, detail - oriented, perfectionists,

asks lots of questions,

wants to please,

worrisome,

get stressed more easily than other styles,

more serious than other styles,

hard on themselves,

self-disciplined, practical, precise, organizers, and

planners.

( I - Beth - am a "C" ) 

If that sounds like your child,

scroll down

for the " C " section. 

Discipline secrets for:

"D" children

For "Ds"

“Ds” are more cooperative

when they are given choices.

A great reward for them is 

allowing them

to lead something.

For example,

" If you follow the rules without arguing this week,

you get to choose where we go out to eat on Friday

and when we leave for the restaurant - 

anytime between 5:00  and 7:00. "

Correct

their behavior

by focusing on actions

and

being specific as to what needs to be done.

Use a firm, direct tone

to gain their respect and cooperation.

Use as few words as possible

when correcting them.

They see weakness

when someone is using lots of words.

Generally respond to questions with a yes or no.

"Ds" like to gain control

by

keeping you talking.

Note that

most “Ds” like to argue.

Do not encourage arguing.

Consider

giving negative consequences for arguing.

Discipline secrets for:

"I" children

For  "Is"

Reduce the need for discipline by considering the tips below.

Do not give  "Is" too many verbal instructions

at one time.

Give them quick jobs with quick rewards.

Allow them flexibility when doing tasks.

Keep an eye on them to help reduce distraction problems.

“Is” want approval and recognition.

They NEED encouragement.

Keep them on the right track

by

giving them lots of

compliments and encouragement.

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For example,

"Hey that's GREAT. You are AWESOME!

You got

2 pages done in your homework! 

Just 1 more page and you will be finished!"

Provide them with helpful strategies

for completing school tasks and home tasks,

and remind them several times

of deadlines

especially as the deadline draws close.

But resist

continually bailing them out of

logical consequences.

When correcting them,

make sure

that they understand

that you are only correcting them

not rejecting them.

Reassure them

that you love them AND that you like them.

"Is" are very sensitive to rejection -

and often feel rejection when it is not really there. 

Help them

by telling them that you are not rejecting them;

you are being a loving parent by correcting them. 

Give them a hug!

"Is" need help with motivation

to overcome their implusiveness.

Employ

fun rewards for good behavior - 

stickers, sweet treats, going to fun events, etc.

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Most "Is" do not like being isolated from people.

So also consider...

rewarding them with something social

and

punishing them by taking away time with friends.

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I have lots more tips

in my Praing for your Child book. 

Discipline secrets for:

"S" children

For  “Ss” –

Correct behavior by using a gentle tone.

Focus on HOW things need to be different.

Give them time to think about changes

before they happen.

Do not expect them to figure out

the details of a task or assignment

by themselves.

Remember

that

they frequently need step-by-step instructions.

Watch for

signs that they are confused

and

ask them if they need help.

They usually sincerely want to please you.

Note that it is very difficult for them

to tell their peers, “No.”

They often

get in trouble

because they are fearful

about telling their peers, “No.”

Help them by giving them ideas and strategies

for getting out of

difficult situations with their peers.

Note:

I have a prayer and strategies

for helping a child say "No."

I encourage you to check it out on this page - Here

Discipline secrets for:

"C" children

For "Cs"

Most “Cs” want to do things the right way for you.

Explain

calmly and clearly

exactly

what is expected of them.

“Cs” want you to be patient and factual.

Give detailed explanations.

Tell them WHY they should do

what you want them to do.

Use

logic and refer to wisdom.

For example,

" Wisdom says it is better to go ahead and put your homework

in your backpack

so you can’t forget it tomorrow.

So that is the rule."

Give them freedom to ask questions.

Answer all their questions patiently,

politely,

and with a good attitude.

They will greatly appreciate it.

-"Cs" usually enjoy being alone and recharge by being alone.

So punishing them

by sending them to their room

is usually seen

by them

as a positive outcome.

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Consider asking your "C" child

to help you make the rules and the punishments.

But take note -

Sometimes their idea of their punishment is too harsh. 

You may have to tell them

that their choice of punishment is too harsh. 

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"Cs" are often hard on themselves AND hard on others.

Your "C" child probably worries too much.

Consider

my prayer and tips for a child who worries - Here.

No matter what personality style your child has

note that

your child's

second highest style

will be helpful 

to

understanding your child better.

Consider getting my book

Praying for your Child.

This website has LOTS of DISC pages.

Consider our beginning page - Here