Ephesians 6 verse 4

Ephesians 6 verse 4

Our Amazing Heavenly Father

wants us to

understand 

what an amazing Father looks like

and how to be one.

He also wants to heal the heart of those who have been

hurt by a father - or a mother.

Be sure and check out

the video

at the bottom of the page

on healing the wounded heart

and creating a great relationship with God.

Let's Begin

with

looking at traits

of a

good father.

A 

Picture 

is  worth 

a Thousand Words.

Good Fathers

have the ability

to calm and bring security

to their family and the world around them.

A

Father

functioning 

like God intends

is

POWERFUL.

In  Ephesians,

God emphasizes

some key parts

of a

Father's job description.

Ephesians 6:4 NKJV

says

" And you, fathers,

do not provoke your children to wrath,

but

bring them up

in the training and admonition of the Lord. "

Many people have been greatly hurt by their father.

And many have been greatly hurt by their mother.

Note that this Bible verse highlights

Fathers.

This page will examine

why God is emphasizing Fathers here.

NOTE:

Most of the parenting information that is given

is needed by

both parents.

Yet,

I will emphasize the role of Father.

There are

Three Parts to this Scripture

First point -

What does - " Do not provoke to wrath " mean?

Answer:

Do not

treat your child in a way

that would create an anger in them

that they carry around in life.

Instead,

raise your child

in a way that creates a loving bond.

Avoid harshness -

and

be a dad who can

ask his child for  forgiveness  when he messes up. 

This first point includes

avoiding

arbitrary rules, inconsistent rules

or

inconsistent application.

It is VERY hard to be consistent.

But

fathers are called to consistency -

and to

humbly admit when they have messed up.

It is vital

that you aim to be fair to all your children. 

Consider

Creative Punishments

Sometimes firm talking

is enough

Second point -

What does - " Train them - of the Lord  " mean?

Answer:

Train them to know the Bible and be obedient to it.

Teach them about God and their responsibilities in this world.

Teach them to be   >  obedient to God.

Teach them how to resist temptations.

Yet also teach them

to obey you,

their mother,

and all proper forms of authority.

This point also includes teaching them

wisdom    and    cultivating common sense. 

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If you don't know the Bible very well,

be open with your children and humble.

Tell them that God has told you that you need to learn more.

Model for your children that you obey and respect God.

The Bible tells us

that our spiritual goal is - 

" Follow God’s example

in everything you do

just as

a much - loved

child

imitates

his father. "

Ephesians 5:1 TLB

-

Below

is a picture

of how

God wants us to view him

Third point -

What does " bring them up in the admonition of the Lord " mean?

Answer:

Teach them that

punishment will come for those who disobey. 

Show them    and   Teach them

that

appropriate fatherly punishment

is

punishment rooted in love - not rejection. 

A godly father follows through on appropirate punishment.

If

a good father gives an unreasonable punishment,

he comes back to the child

and

makes modification and apologies.

A good father

is not focused on his ego or saving face

but instead

on

protecting the ones he loves.

This point

includes

warning your child of what will cause punishment.

In our world -

the word " Father "

is not

defined as

what God wants

and

not lived out as God desires.

We have lost our way.

God is calling to us

to allow him to teach us

about the true definitions

of

Father and Family.

The role of Father

was designed to be

the bedrock foundation

of the family

God wants the world to be

full of

loving Fathers

who sit with God and learn from the Bible.

A Father is to be trained 

by

The Father of Fathers

who is Father God.

Before I continue this page,

I want to offer

a great sermon

about Father God.

The video below addresses the topic of 

" Father God and the role of Fathers "

in a

better way than I can.

I hope you will consider watching this video.

The sermon starts at

1 hour

13 minutes.

You will see that this is a Messianic Jewish service.

These are  Jews  who believe

Jesus IS their Messiah.

They embrace the New Testament.

They believe in the Trinity of God.

This guest speaker

will use a couple of Hebrew words.

Adonai is Hebrew for Lord.

Adonai can refer to Father God or Jesus.

Yeshua is Hebrew for Jesus.

Ruach is Hebrew for Holy Spirit.

Yochanan the Immerser = John the Baptist

The Best Fathers

still

need more guidance

so they can

fulfill the big shoes that God has ordained for them.

The worst Fathers

have created great pain and suffering for their children

as God explains in Ephesians 6:4.

Those men

need

mature men to teach them.

They need to repent and become teachable.

They need more time with God.

They need the forgiveness of their family.

We are all - Desperate - for God.

And most people are oblivious to that fact.

God wants men

to be firm against sin

and

protect their family against sin

that includes appropriate discipline with his children 

while

being

wise , kind,  merciful,  and  forgiving.

God wants to create

fathers

who are strong against things

which could hurt or harm his family

or

his community

but

warm, approachable, and welcoming

with his family.

Being a good Father

is not

an easy job. 

The world wants Fathers to be easy on sin and excuse it.

The world wants Fathers to be seen as "not too bright."

The world teaches people to disrespect Fathers.

The world wants Fathers

to lay down their natural tendencies

of protection

and

feel intimidated by words such as "toxic masculinity."

Men are being pulled one way and then another.

Young men

see

no

role models and drift into sin.

God is calling this generation to rise up

and

FOLLOW Jesus!

Evangelist Jack Frost

has taught extensively

about

Fathers - 

For Example....

How to be a good father -

How to feel loved and adored by Father God - 

and

How to be healed from the wounds of an earthly father.

-

Jack Frost does an 

AMAZING

job

of explaining 

Healing Emotional wounds

and

How to have a GREAT relationship with Father God.

I hope you will watch even more of his videos.

Jack did not explain one part clearly.

So I will :

God wants love

to be our relationship with him on this earth.

Jesus will however judge us after our death.

And it will be harsh -

if

we have not repented and lived our life for Jesus.....

 - Not perfectly but sincerely and wholeheartedly - 

Jesus

took our harsh penalty for sin on the cross.

If you would not accept his payment, then you must pay.

See our page

on understanding salvation words

I highly recommend Jack Frost.

If you need help in your life or family -

see more videos of Jack Frost - Here

My page on

feeling like orphans

I end with this prayer.

Would you join me?

Lord,

As men and women of God,

we pray the following things.

May your Bible words become our guiding light.

May we daily desire to learn from your Bible.

May we desire to repent

of all the ways we sinned against you and people.

May our intimacy with you

 - and with our loved ones - 

grow each day.

May we put you in the center of our life.

That

is our daily aim.

These words are prayed in Jesus' name,

Amen