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It is important
the key to a man's heart.
The video below explains...
as Mark also explains below,
if you have sex before marriage,
you are shooting yourself in the foot.
is most motivated to get married,
most motivated to bless you
most motivated to prepare for marriage with you
he wants sex with you for the first time –
when he has already has had sex with you.
In fact, sometimes a single man will totally fall out of love
with you, after premarital sex.
Sometimes he can't help it.
Premarital sex is about lust not about love.
So... common sense says "wait"
God says "wait"
do what it takes to
"wait for sex until marriage!"
Any man who - isn't willing - to wait until marriage
for sex with you,
wouldn't be a good husband to you.
The couple below
waited to have sex in marriage:
What do men find
God wants you to have a healthy
which includes godly confidence.
Are you seeking popularity concerning
the opinions of your friends so you can be accepted
and perhaps popular?
Or are you seeking the opinions of God
so you can be pleasing to him?
As Mark Gungor said:
are attracted to
While you are waiting on Mr. Right
solidify your inner confidence.
Truthful thinking can increase your inner confidence.
Here are some Facts for you to believe:
I am greatly loved by God.
I am a unique and wonderful woman.
I have many talents.
I can like and love myself.
My value is not in my appearance.
God takes care of me.
I can learn to be assertive when I need to be.
I need to nurture myself and value myself.
I can change my thinking, and I can learn new skills.
I have great strengths.
Distortions in how you see reality
If you want to be a Happy Wife:
Be careful who you
Choose to Date and Marry.
What are some traits of a
More Wise Thoughts about
How to Choose
Beware of men who justify their mistakes
magnify your mistakes.
Beware of a man who always justifies himself
and never apologizes.
Important Tips and Insights
Christian author of
The Five Love Languages
What does it look like
when a man
in a healthy way?
Take note that
the above speaker does not present Christian values
in many of his videos
so I don't recommend him for other videos.
I just recommend the above video.
There are a few - a very few - men who are so shy, the woman has to do some pursuing.
But in most cases, men want to PURSUE the woman.
If you pursue a man,
he may feel flattered and like it for the moment
but at some point
he will feel unsettled
he may not even know why.
That is because most men have something
that wants to pursue a woman
she "short circuits" that -
he will - not - have the same passion toward her
as he would have
if she had given him room to do more of the pursuing.
Lots of women lose their boyfriend
because they were pursuing their boyfriend.
Men often leave a relationship when being pursued.
Do not pursue a single man more than he is pursuing you.
Try to enjoy your private life and let him pursue you
in his timing.
a worldly man bluntly tells you
not to pursue a man.
Obviously, the man above is not a Christian.
He is crude.
His words are worldly, and I don't recommend his videos.
I posted this video because
it was the only video I could find that included
certain important points I wanted to share.
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Below is an interesting video
from a Christian woman.
She adds some depth into the question about
A Picture of a Couple
Keeping God in their Relationship
A note for
who are dating a man
for more than a year.
As a woman who is not having sex with her boyfriend,
your boyfriend should be talking to you
before or at least by the
one year mark of dating.
If it is 9 months or a year of being exclusive
with a man
and he is not dying to marry you,
Look over the situation carefully.
Some men just want to date.
They just want someone to casually date.
Some women date a man for years and
cannot get it through
that he doesn't want to get married.
You will likely not have a good marriage with a man who never
wanted to be married in the first place, but somehow
you convinced him to get married.
If you want to be married,
you need to date a man who wants to get married.
Having a boyfriend is exciting.
While enjoying the excitement,
don't disregard these emotions:
H - Hungry
A - Angry
L - Lonely
T - Tired
When you are feeling one or more of these emotions,
be very careful
in what you say and do with your boyfriend.
Many young relationships are sabotaged
by a woman
who is so excited about an emotional connection
with a man
that when she gets one -
and when she becomes
hungry, angry, lonely, or tired -
she contacts her boyfriend and wants to talk.
Not the best idea!
Let a new relationship go from simmer to hot
without you pushing your boyfriend
when you need to take time to work on
your HALT emotions or physical well - being.
If it is early in the relationship and you are not on a date,
not answering the phone or texting with him
until you feel a little better.
Many women shoot themselves in the foot by talking on the
phone or texting their sweetheart when they have
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Obviously that doesn't mean to be out-of-contact for
long periods of time when he is trying to contact you.
Men want a happy, contented woman
for a wife,
not a grouchy, irritable woman.
to live alone
in the desert
than with a quarrelsome, complaining wife.
Proverbs 21:19 NLT
Many women wait and wait for a relationship
then when they get one,
they do not nurture it in its beginning stages.
In the first six to eight weeks,
that man is deciding
if he is really interested in you.
That is the time to put your best foot forward.
During that time, many modern-day women
don't take the advice
from older women -
do not spend so much time
on the phone with or texting your boyfriend.
You want to be sure that when you are talking on the phone
to your newly-acquired boyfriend
that you get off the phone
before he is overly ready to get off the phone.
In the beginning,
be sure not to exceed an hour on the phone.
For most calls, an hour is a long time.
Hanging on the phone
is the way
a lot of women lose a man.
When you do this,
the man associates boredom with you.
You want that man getting off his phone thinking,
"I can hardly wait to talk to her again!"
"Wow, I'm glad I'm finally off the phone with her."
And talk about things that are interesting to him -
not things like your hair, your clothes, your nails,
and your girlfriends.
Learn to FEEL when you are being
too pushy and invasive of
his private time.
he will feel like you are pursuing him.
The video below has some important points.
I wish I could have found a Christian man
to give those points.
Even though he is not a picture of a man to date,
he does gives
some important universal truths.
The video below has more key points
about why men leave
and again, this man is not a Christian.
In watching the man above,
it is easy to see that he is a worldly man.
He is not a Christian, so he is not the model of who to date.
Nevertheless, he does have some important things to share.
For one thing, he is right that it is important
to be a thankful and grateful person.
I will put it this way:
The more negative you become,
the more dingy your heart becomes.
And we are supposed to
Shine for Christ!
Focus on the positive in life -
Be thankful, grateful, and uplifting.
Meditations of Gratitude
The love of the Lord gives me acceptance.
I feel valuable.
The kindness of the Lord gives me my daily needs.
I feel blessed.
The truth of the Lord gives me warnings about mistakes and hardships.
I feel protected and encouraged.
The mercy of the Lord gives me unmerited assistance and grace.
I feel comforted and forgiven.
The faithfulness of the Lord gives me steadiness.
I feel calm and restful.
The beauty of the Lord gives me uplifted emotions.
I feel refreshed.
The cross of the Lord gives me redemption.
I feel peaceful about my eternal home.
Copyright © 2014 Beth McLendon of Inspirational-prayers.com
A man wants to be convinced
that you think
he is capable of taking care of himself
capable of taking care of a family.
Wisdom says not to be your boyfriend's rescuer.
The kind of Christian man you want to marry
is a man who can take care of himself.
He does not need another mother.
Do not try to take care of his problems or fix things in his life.
Do not try to be his counselor.
Be his friend - but not his counselor.
If he asks your opinion,
give him your best wisdom
but do not put yourself in the position to be his counselor.
While dating (and in marriage):
Build your man up
by expressing admiration for the things he does well.
A man wants to be a hero.
I encourage you to:
Be on a mission
the heroic things about the man you love.
God has a destiny for all men to become
a Christian hero
Champion for Christ!
When you are married, you and your husband form a team. You are then your husband's helper.
Being a wife means helping your husband and family.
It also means being a good sounding board and giving godly advice to your husband.
But even then, do not make your husband feel that you are being his mother. No man wants to be married to his mother. Make sure you treat a man like a man and not like a little boy.
A good marriage
is one in which the man feels respected.
By the way,
if you have had a lot of bad experiences with men
and you just plain don't like men -
go to God and get healed.
Men can tell when a woman doesn't like men -
and they are repelled by it.
Men who are
Great Husband Material -
do not need or want you
to mother them.
They do not want to be married to a woman who "mothers" them.
The only time most men want a mother figure from their wife is when they are burning up with fever.
So be cautious about "making sure they wear their coat" or "making sure they put on their hat."
Mothers try to give advice or assistance
in order to rescue
their little boys
from the consequences of actions
they might have otherwise taken.
Don't suggest that you go drive 50 miles to rescue your boyfriend from a broken - down car unless he asks for your help.
Instead show confidence in him.
As he is telling you how he is going to call a tow truck, show him you have confidence in him.
Instead of a mothering statement - say something like, "I know you will be able to figure out the right thing to do."
Single men want to pilot their own life.
A single man wants to FEEL like
he can figure out how to get out of situations
without your help.
Pushing your help on a man in order to rescue a man will probably lead to him seeing you as a mother figure.
Men want a romantic partner
not a mothering partner.
BUT most women think they get points for being what they would call helpful - but men would call overly helpful.
Being overly helpful also makes you look needy and desperate for a boyfriend.
And the few men who do actually marry a mother type - well - don't expect a lot of romance and passion from him.
Why do women date
A man once asked me,
"Why do women want to date - bad boys?
I am a nice, kind man
women just aren't interested in me."
This section contains my answer to him:
Yes some women are only interested in bad boys.
Those women are not wise,
and you should avoid
seeing them as someone to date.
There are several reasons why some women want to date bad boy.
One of the main reasons is that
it makes some women
feel special, sexy, and excited
when a man treats other people poorly
treats her like she is somebody special.
Women with a low self-concept
get suckered into this kind of relationship.
AND they later experience
a broken heart
when that man gets tired of her
starts to treat her like he treats others.
Many women never step back and figure out
why they always date
Reflection for you ladies:
Do you gravitate toward men who are "bad" men?
Some women feel excited being with a man who lives on the edge and who is a little pushy.
Some women feel excited about being with a man who only gives his positive attention to her.
If that is you, then you are in...
Dating Bad Boys
is a trap of
The kind of men you date is the kind of man you will
If you feel excited about being with a man
who only has positive interactions "with you"
and no other people around him
- wake up! -
After you are married for a time,
he will treat you like he treats everyone else.
If you date a man who lives on the edge and is pushy toward people, you will probably marry that kind of man.
You will regret it.
If that is exciting for you during dating, you will find that you are not excited about living with him in marriage.
Your needs will be pushed aside. You will end up feeling unloved, rejected, and lonely.
Draw your heart toward men
who are kind and thoughtful.
Find a man with a tender heart.
That is the kind of man who is real husband material.
Jesus said in Mark chapter 10
that every divorce
is caused by
at least one hard heart.
If you marry a hard heart,
you are already on the path toward divorce.
Grouchy, angry, pushy men make terrible husbands.
Sexually - How Far is too Far?
I decided that in order to honor God,
I couldn't do anything with my boyfriend
that I couldn't do in front of my friends.
Because when you think about it,
whatever you do with your boyfriend
you are doing
in front of your best friend
- the Lord God -
so let's honor him.
I wouldn't do certain things in front of my girlfriends
so I shouldn't do those things in front of my best friend.
Consider Honoring God
during your dates.
Many men have a negative reaction
when a woman asks their help by saying,
"Can you" or "Could you."
Most men hear a question with
"can" or "could"
"Are you capable of doing such and such?"
"Of course I am capable of doing that but
maybe I don't want to do that."
However, you are probably just asking the man if he "would" help you.
The best way to ask a man to do something for you is: "Would you do such and such for me?"
"Will you do such and such for me?"
When I first heard this, I did not understand.
Until the speaker said,
"What would you think if a man got down on one knee
'Can you marry me?'"
That made the point very clear to me.
I, Beth, not only have a seminary degree
but I am also an expert in DISC personality styles.
I provide DISC relationship coaching for a small fee.
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you want to learn
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