Christmas secrets for Spouses
that will add
Happiness and Harmony
Over the years, I have realized that I often dream up expectations at Christmas, and then neglect to protect myself from emotional upheavels if they do not come true.
I now - intentionally - try not to have high expectations of what will happen at Christmas.
Now I find myself
happier and more joyful.
I try to take my expectations
and make them into hopes.
I urge you to consider doing that.
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We all have hopes for Christmas.
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Here are some Strategies
for those things we hope for
and for those things we still hold as expectations.
It is important to communicate
all the hopes and expectations
that we do have
with our spouse.
If you strongly want to go to a Christmas Eve church service and your spouse wouldn't mind going....
Tell your Spouse....
"I want to go to church on Christmas Eve. It is important to me. So would you please call your mom and dad in the next day or two and let them know that we will need to leave their house by 7:30 in order to get to the church service?"
Then ask your spouse if it is o.k. to text him/her in a loving and flirty way in three days to make sure that he/she hasn't forgotten. (When you text your spouse, nicely ask if your spouse has made the call.)
Ask God to help you yield to Him in the event that something goes wrong, and you do not make it to church.
Ask God to help you react to that situation with maturity and in supernatural, Christ-like ways.
Make a decision to have a great Christmas even if you don't get to go to
Unfulfilled Expectations can lead to Resentment.
Resentment damages Marriages.
Attention: Men and Women
you REALLY want a certain piece of jewelry or a certain piece of sports
equipment, etc. then consider being open about it
hoping that your spouse will read your mind.
men and women create conflict
by creating expectations
that their spouse will read their mind.
Women particularly suffer from depression or anger when their husband doesn't "Read their Mind."
Women, please face this fact ......
Men can't Read Minds.
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I encourage women to stop expecting a man to read your mind.
I encourage women to.....
Take a Big-Girl pill because -
He just can't read your mind!
And if you expect him to,
you will face
AND disappointment leads to conflict.
Many times a woman picks a fight with her husband, because she is mad about an unfulfilled expectation.
Angry women often pick a fight about an unrelated topic, instead of calming down and wisely discussing the situation with their husband.
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Wives and Husbands:
Consider planning ahead and making a decision to:
Choose wisdom and love
over upset and conflict.
Take advantage of the opportunity to joyfully celebrate Christmas with your mate.
Find joy in the special events
in the everyday activities.
When things go wrong,
and your spouse and family act
and ask God to help you
remain steady and
We have prayer for Christmas marital stress.
Flirting with your Spouse.
Help to create a "No Scrooge Zone"
by flirting with your Spouse.
Add some flirting with your spouse
to lighten up the holiday mood.
Flirt a little, and consider being a little silly.
Consider doing something
you did when you were dating.
Play "Your Song,"
and remember good times together.
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